Can a person rewire their brain?
Training your brain is effective because it involves rewiring your brain by optimising the connection between neurons, therefore this can mean it works quicker and more efficiently in a certain area.
The keynote to training your brain is to be you, do you, for you! People who are cool, confident, and natural are worth listening to. By training your brain to be you, you will find comfort in your own power, and control.
How to rewire my brain to be positive?
1.Think, ‘I’m in control’
Do you ever sit and wonder how people perceive you? Well now review what you think of yourself, and there is your answer. People perceive you the same way you think of yourself. By thinking ‘I’m in control’ and, ‘I’m someone special’, you will come across that way. Train your brain to think positively and think of the way you want to be perceived; it is essential to understand how you come across to enable you to build self-confidence. Being unaware of how you are perceived is a blind spot for everyone. Using your ‘Aren’t I silly?’ to break the ice can in fact often make you sound unconfident and therefore you need to train your brain to stay confident and talk about what you want to talk about to break the ice rather than falling to the default ‘silly me’ stories.
Ask a friend or someone you know who will speak the truth, find out how they perceive you.
By broadening your use of language, you can attract more interest. Think about the words you are using. People take longer to process emotive or descriptive words which means they will take more notice of what you say by analysing the word for meaning in the context it has been used.
Example: ‘staggered,’ Instead of ‘walked’
- Monitor yourself
By training your brain to monitor your own behaviour you can prevent default mode being switched on by learning to have confidence to stand up and be who you are rather than relying on that default mode. To be expressive is great, and often defines many personalities, but don’t be over the top. When you are nervous you tend to go into default mode, which could be loud and brash or the total opposite of shy and silent. Just be you, no matter the environment!
- Treat yourself as an equal to everyone else
Surround yourself in positivity. Applying positivity to any situation can increase the trust in you, that the outcome will still be well or successful. By using this technique with people around you, you build a sense of equality which could be because you are not making someone feel guilty for a tiny mistake they have made. Instead, you are pulling up the positive aspect out and not talking down to them. Sometimes you just need that slightly different view on things. This won’t just help you but the people around you.
Example: If someone is late for a meeting with you, when they apologise, don’t say, ‘That’s fine.’ Say, I’m sure we’ve still got time to get through everything,’ instead.
Do not just say what they want to hear it
Wanting to be liked is a very big factor affecting actions in everyday life… we all want to be liked by everyone, but imagine if everyone agreed on the same things in life?
There are many words to use but let’s go with criticism – this may not be something someone doesn’t do at all or does completely wrong, it could be the only thing that needs a little bit of improvement. This is something that has drifted away in everyday life but should be welcomed and accepted as it can be so helpful for an individual. Surrounding yourself with a lack of truthful speakers can hinder your self-growth and many opportunities in life may be missed.
Approach negativity positively, when giving and taking!
Technology today allows many people to block out the people with the views they don’t necessarily want to hear… obviously people are going to choose to stay connected with the people that praise and positively interact with them, but this again hinders life improvement.
Many people avoid speaking what other people don’t want to hear, and again technology has made this easier for people to do. But, positivity can encourage repetitive behaviour and therefore different paths in life are not taken, which hinders the improvements that could also have had a positive effect on life.
Finding the balance in life, of when to focus on positives or criticise someone is crucial. Don’t be afraid to speak your thoughts, opinions, and mostly… just what people do not want to hear!
For additional research have a look at the links provided below; you may also find them useful in reference to the points spoken about in this blog:
Author: TEAM Engage Team – Dave Pickles & Fay Burrows